Who Determines Attractiveness?

I have some super fun soap-box issues, but one that is particularly in my thoughts this evening is this: attractiveness.

Have you ever been with people who discuss the physical attraction of other people? Whether they come right out and say it, they essentially get down to it: someone is ugly. The reasons for this could vary; maybe that person doesn’t have a significant other, maybe they aren’t cool, or maybe the person is just genuinely not attracted to them.

Please, please don’t make the mistake of accidentally (or purposefully) calling someone ugly because you aren’t attracted to them.

The Bible clearly tells us that we were fearfully and wonderfully made, and in the image of God. I’m sure you’ve probably heard that calling someone ugly is hurting God, but there’s another side to this, as well.

Who you find attractive does not determine anyone’s worth. At all. Ever.

Just because I am not attracted to you doesn’t mean that you aren’t attractive. In fact, it has no bearing on your worth at all. And in the same way, if I am attracted to you, that doesn’t make you any more valuable than you already are. Your value is in Who made you, not who likes you.

In our society today, this concept seems to be very messed up. If that group of people decides that, “Hey, they’re cute”, then obviously, that person is better than everyone else. Or, if a collective group of people picks out a specific person, and they all say, “I find them ugly”, then clearly, they have the final say on that person’s worth. Except, they don’t. But they act like they should. And unfortunately, people believe them.

I’m very grateful to have this strange quality of “not caring”. I don’t care if you’re tall, if you’re short, if you’re heavy, if you’re thin, if you’re a completely average lookin’ joe, if your face is acne-central, or if you don’t know what pimples even are. I look at people, and I see people that God created. I don’t see ugly people. I never have.

The next time you acknowledge that you aren’t attracted to someone, also acknowledge that your feelings about their outward appearance have no weight in their value.

Wouldn’t you feel a lot better if the people around you weren’t trying to decide your  worth?

 

 

Attention

Attention is a funny word. Today, however, I realized that attention is a form of respect. To give someone your attention is to respect them and give them your time. In turn, they respect your gift of time and make the most of it while they have your attention.

Some people don’t like to pay attention. Whether we’re figuring out our next words while someone is still speaking, or downright staring off into space, we are inadvertently and sometimes deliberately disrespecting them.

And, unfortunately, we have to bring self-focus into this.

Not only is giving someone your attention respectful, it’s also selfless. It’s putting someone else before you and your wants.

The exact opposite goes on when we refuse to give someone that respect. We are deciding that we are more important than what they have to say; whatever is coming from our mouths has more value; our time is greater than theirs.

The next time you’re out and about, and someone deserves your attention: remember, you’re not only focusing on them, but you’re respecting them, and choosing to be selfless. They will appreciate your attention, and will respect your time.

Kick-Off Ramblings

Every year at this time, my world turns upside down. I sit in a crowded room stuffed with nerds. We huddle around a projector, eat pizza, and hash out ideas excitedly for the next six hours.

It’s kick-off. The start of the FIRST Robotics Competition season. The game reveal. The design options. The functions.

The inability to concentrate on anything else for the next six weeks and beyond.

This year, the game is incredibly complicated. As a leader in strategy and scouting, I’ve already been presented with several challenges in just two days.

Yay…

This year, I would love for us to be an AMAZING team. I want us to have everything together. To get to the World’s competition on our own merits.

Unfortunately, that’s incredibly complicated.

Here, see for yourself.

Isn’t that great?

Anyway. I’ve spent so much time thinking through strategy in the past 36 hours or so, I may have broken my communicator.

This is my documented challenge to myself to make sure we do our very best this year.

Goodnight…

Bridesmaids

Obviously, I’m much too young to be getting married. Besides the fact that I don’t have a significant other (or anyone remotely interested in becoming one), I’m only sixteen. Marriage isn’t really on the to-do list at this point.

However, I do think about weddings, sometimes. How, when we’re young, we promise our best friends that they’ll be our bridesmaids, and when we get older, our friends sometimes create their toasts before a guy has even been located.

What if it was some kind of tradition to make your bridesmaids every best or close friend you’d had throughout your lifetime?

Would you be in contact with them? And would they even say yes when you asked them?

I’ve had many best friends over the years. Most of them are not still in my life. Some, I don’t even know how to contact. And something about the entire idea makes me terribly sad, knowing that the people I was so close with when I was younger, aren’t anymore. And those that I’m close with now, won’t be in the future.

Don’t forget to cherish the time you have with people. You’ll blink, and your list of bridesmaids that you create in your head will remind you of all those left behind. Don’t have regrets.

New Years Schedule!

Hey, everyone! In light of it being the first day of a new year, I thought I’d take the opportunity to be cliche and make some resolutions. I’ll be doing my best to put out a blog every Sunday night this year. Look forward to that! I’m an incredibly random person, so my posts will range from writing advice and life lessons, to stories, rants, and general book updates.

I pray blessings over each of you in whatever God has in store for you this year. May His light shine through you!

Consequences

Consequences is such a negative word. Your parents parrot it at you as a warning or as a punishment. “There are consequences for your actions, young lady!” To the twenty-first century kid, the word consequences means “you’re in trouble.” Nobody wants to hear about consequences!

I’m here to tell you that consequences not only get a bad rap, but are a good thing.

“What? That’s crazy talk!”

Here’s a little secret about consequences: they are what makes your life a life. The literal definition of a consequence is “a result or effect of an action or condition.” This makes consequences an if-then statement! And if we didn’t have consequences, well, then, nothing would ever happen. There’d be no then for the if and we would lead completely pointless lives of nothingness.

An if-then statement: if I skip school, then I will be punished. That sounds more like a consequence, doesn’t it? Well, here’s another consequence if-then statement: if I do my work and make good grades, then I will be on the honor roll. Wait a second…the honor roll is a consequence? Well, consequentiallyyes, it is!

Consequence is a synonym for “result”, “effect”, and “outcome”. When somebody warns you about the consequences of your actions, they’re just letting you know what the outcome is going to be. Just like an if-then statement.

Some people seem to want to live a life without consequences. They want to do what they want, when they want, how they want. Nobody tellin’ them right and wrong! No punishment.

They miss the very foundation of outcome, of result, of consequence. They can’t live a life without consequences, because such a life cannot exist! They cannot simply do as they wish without there being a result! They cannot eliminate the punishment for the bad without removing the reward for the good!

An if-then statement has to have a then. Going through life, playing a game of “if-only” is quite a risk: you miss the consequences of your daily actions if you only focus on what could be, if only you’d done something else.

At the end of the day, you’ve got a lot to thank consequences for. They’ve cast the results of every decision you’ve made, good or bad. If you want to kick consequences to the curb, remember, you can’t take away the negative connotations without banishing the wonderful, positive things.

Plus, math is useful. Who knew!